A relationship is a commitment because it is an agreement that both parties will try their best to work things out and openly tell people that they have a partner. It does not sound like a lot to ask for.
For men, it is difficult to commit because they feel that if they try and fail, it will make the "not good enough" feeling worse and their brain is protecting them from that. So they need to be very sure before they get into a relationship.
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Sex is also a commitment because it can potentially result in a lifetime commitment and lifestyle change e.g. a child. I posit that it is a bigger commitment than a relationship because of that. Sure, protection can reduce the risk of this logically, but feelings don't follow logic.
For women, it is difficult to have sex because they feel that if they do and things don't work out, it will make their "not good enough" feeling worse and their brain is protecting them from that. So they need to be very sure before they have sex.
For men, it's easier to walk away from the child and complete lifestyle change. For women, it is not. That is why women are generally more reluctant to have sex even if they desire it as well.
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