I used to think mutual feelings were the most important.
After a lot of reflecting, I realized there is only a point in having a partner if being with that person is better than being alone.
It is not easy to be with someone. If I can't build a life with this person, what is the point?
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I should be spending time and effort on myself.
If I am going to spend time and effort on someone, it should be proportional to how much it benefits me.
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At the same time, it's hard to fully let go.
Chocolate cake represents not just mutual understanding and feelings but future possibilities. And that is the hardest thing to let go of.